Ode to the Ladies

by Lisa Donovan

Little known fact about me: I don’t really have a lot of girlfriends. I have five very close girlfriends and don’t really envision that I will be adding to that number any time soon. However, I have a slew of guy friends whom are dear to me - several of which are gay, so it is a lovely combination of masculine and feminine attibutes. But for some reason I have just never gotten on with women all that well. I don’t small talk well and I tend to be a bit too “thinky” and, according to my husband, too confident for most women. It is not something I am comfortable with - in fact, it is something I consider a weakness of mine. I wish I could tone it down a bit and just be “one of the girls” but it is just not something that is ever going to happen.

So, this little oddity in my life has lead me to think about those girls who are closest to me. One of my closest friends, Jennifer, came to see me last week with her husband Peter. So much time has passed since we had last seen one another and so many things have happened in both of our lives. We are both married now and I have an extra kid than I did upon our last visit. But that very striking something happened - that thing that happens when relationships have transcended the “friend” level and have moved toward the “family” level. We still cared for one another the way we had over ten years ago. We still felt that reverence for one another that will, undoubtedly, last for the rest of our lives. Through all the changes and all the time that has passed, we still understood one another. It is remarkable what it does to the soul when you find a bond like that. In a world when everything is so expendable and temporary, finding that permanence and sincerity is lovely. So, yeah, when it comes down to it, I don’t make a lot of girlfriends. I don’t know if I will ever understand the reasoning behind it, but, I am starting to realize that it might very well be because the ones I have already fill quite a sizable space in my life. I like that.

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This entry was posted on Monday, March 27th, 2006 at 10:56 am and is filed under Lifestyles, Daily Living. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.

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