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Thwarting Babysitter Drama–Forewarned is Forearmed

Every now and then, my husband and I try to get out without our darling boy. In fact, last summer, we started having a standing date every Friday night. Once the colder months hit, our “standing Friday night date” went by the wayside because we didn’t feel like braving the cold, we were having a hard time coming up with things to do, and it turned out that we preferred to just relax and snuggle and maybe catch an “on demand” movie or two after the little guy was in bed. Yeah, we’re lame. We do still go out at least once a month–it probably doesn’t sound like much, but getting out was also hard because of watching the hysterical and teary-eyed boy standing at the door as we left after wrestling ourselves from his clutches. It was heartbreaking and the temptation to call and see how he was doing after we’d left was too great.

He always seems to know too, that my husband and I are getting ready to go out without him. When else does Mama put on make-up and carry a bag that’s smaller than the diaper bag? He is a very observant boy and seems to know and understand our routines and rituals. It’s uncanny.

Two Mama-and-Papa outings ago, I had a “eureka” moment, inspired not so much by the impending arrival of the babysitter, but by the activity that we were in the middle of. My son and I were playing in his room, and having a grand time when I realized that it would soon be time for me to start getting ready. While we were playing I initiated this conversation with my 25-month-old, whom we affectionately call Bean:

Mama (excitedly): “Guess what, Beany?”
Bean: “Wha?”
Mama (still excitedly): “Guess who’s coming over to see you?
Bean: “Me?”
Mama: (still excitedly): “Yes, you! Kristen’s coming over to have dinner with you and for a play date just with you! Isn’t that great?”
Bean: “Yah, yah, yah, yah, yahhhhhh!” (jumping up and down).
Mama: “And Mama and Papa are going to go out–so it’ll be just you and Kristen for your play date!”
Bean: “Kay” (for okay.)

We continued playing some more and I announced that when Papa went into the shower, I’d make Bean’s dinner.

He was completely nonplussed. I made his dinner and when my husband came back downstairs, I went to get myself ready. On cue and on time (as always) Kristen arrived. Five minutes later, my husband and I were out the door, leaving the two of them coloring while Bean finished his dinner.

There were no tears, no tantrum, no drama. He blew us kisses and waved bye-bye as we left.

It turns out that this wasn’t an strange occurrence. I tried the same kind of forewarning the next time that my husband and I had a child-free outing, and it yielded the same results.

Am I deceiving him, by calling it a “play date” instead of telling him outright that Mama and Papa are going out without him? I don’t think so. To him the babysitter’s arrival means the impending doom of Mama’s and Papa’s disappearance. To the little ego-centric mind of the toddler it means that he’s missing out on something, that we just may be having fun without him. But by letting him know that the babysitter’s arrival is not about Mama and Papa, but is all about him and sharing an activity that he loves–playing–it removes the frustration. And, since he does know our routines and habits, preparing him ahead of time shows that we respect him enough as a person to inform him of changes to his world, and gives him ample time to process the sitter’s arrival and look forward to his special play date. The sitter isn’t spurng upon him, deflating any expectations that he’d be having Mama and Papa to himself all night.

So if you’re being confronted by babysitter drama when you try to leave, try the gentle forewarning approach. It just may work for you, too.

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Top 100 US Baby names 2006

For those interested in the latest trends in popular baby names check out the list below.

For the boys, blockbuster name of the late 20th century “Michael” has slipped from 1 to 12 over the past decade.  ”Ben” has snuck into the list again at 97.  ”Aidan” to my suprise is at number one (does anyone know many Aidans?).  A number of biblical names such as “Joseph”, “Caleb” and “Noah” seem to be gaining ground and I wonder if this trend will continue.

For the girls the timeless classic “Emma” is holding number one position.  An Eric Clapton inspired 70’s song may be responsible for “Layla” sneaking in at number 91.  A personal favourite of mine “Madison” is doing remarkably well at 3rd position.  Personally I have an overwhelming urge to remove number 94 from the list as to me, “Camryn” looks like a spelling error.

If you can’t find a suitable name for your next bub check out our baby names directory, with over 10,000 names to browse through.

Girl Names

1 Emma
3 Madison
5 Sophia
7 Olivia
9 Makayla
11 Abigail
13 Hailey
15 Madeline
17 Grace
19 Riley
21 Sydney
23 Mackenzie
25 Alyssa
27 Alexis
29 Taylor
31 Brianna
33 Kylie
35 Elizabeth
37 Allison
39 Katherine
41 Isabelle
43 Savannah
45 Arianna
47 Julia
49 Maya
51 Brooke
53 Victoria
55 Katie
57 Gabriella
59 Leah
61 Rebecca
63 Gabrielle
65 Amelia
67 Reagan
69 Trinity
71 Cadence
73 Ashlyn
75 Gracie
77 Kendall
79 Molly
81 Kennedy
83 Addison
85 Alana
87 Jada
89 Alexa
91 Layla
93 Ellie
95 Nicole
97 Charlotte
99 Mckenna

Boy Names

1 Aidan
3 Ethan
5 Matthew
7 Tyler
9 Joshua
11 Dylan
13 Connor
15 Jayden
17 Zachary
19 Logan
21 Nathan
23 William
25 Joseph
27 James
29 Cameron
31 Christian
33 Gavin
35 Mason
37 Brayden
39 Austin
41 John
43 Owen
45 Brandon
47 Samuel
49 Thomas
51 Landon
53 Justin
55 Cole
57 Ian
59 Hayden
61 Isaac
63 Kyle
65 Isaiah
67 Nathaniel
69 Devin
71 Robert
73 Eric
75 Chase
77 Carson
79 Cooper
81 Charlie
83 Bryce
85 Brian
87 Xavier
89 Parker
91 Sam
93 Ashton
95 Kevin
97 Ben
99 Henry



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One Shot Vaccine for Measles, Mumps and Rubella Feared to Cause Autism and Bowel Disease

A popular vaccine — often called MMR for measles, mumps and rubella — has been found to have a link to autism and bowel disease. Although the initial research was heavily scrutinized by other researchers and pharmaceuticals, new research is making those critics take a second look. Sally Beck of the Daily Mail reports:

The study appears to confirm the findings of British doctor Andrew Wakefield, who caused a storm in 1998 by suggesting a possible link.

Now a team from the Wake Forest University School of Medicine in North Carolina are examining 275 children with regressive autism and bowel disease - and of the 82 tested so far, 70 prove positive for the measles virus.

Last night the team’s leader, Dr Stephen Walker, said: ‘Of the handful of results we have in so far, all are vaccine strain and none are wild measles.

‘This research proves that in the gastrointestinal tract of a number of children who have been diagnosed with regressive autism, there is evidence of measles virus.

‘What it means is that Dr Wake-field’s implication is it may be coming study is correct. That study from the MMR vaccine. If that’s didn’t draw any conclusions about the case, and this live virus is specifically what it means to find residing in the gastrointestinal measles virus in the gut, but the tract of some children, and then they have GI inflammation and other problems, it may be related to MMR.’

Read the full story: Scientists fear MMR link to autism

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Pediatricians Offer New Recommendations To Prevent SIDS

USA Today reports on new pediatrician recommendations for preventing SIDS

To best protect babies from sudden infant death syndrome, or SIDS, they should be offered pacifiers and should not sleep on their sides, pediatricians advised Monday…

…”We’re no longer recommending the side position because infants often roll over onto their stomachs,” says John Kattwinkel, a University of Virginia neonatologist who chairs the academy panel that wrote the new policy.

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