Dealing With Your Anger

By: Rick Hanson, Ph.D. and Jan Hanson, L.Ac.

Sometimes I get so mad at my kids! Yes, they were misbehaving but I feel bad about getting angry with them.

Children stir up powerful feelings, including anger, and you are not alone in getting mad.

Nonetheless, adult anger is very scary for little children, and it can start a parent down the slippery slope of emotional or even physical abuse. Plus it's a kind of affliction upon the parent herself: it feels terrible and makes us feel guilty.

So here's what you can do:

Rick Hanson is a clinical psychologist, Jan Hanson is an acupuncturist/nutritionist, and they are raising a daughter and son, ages 12 and 14. With Ricki Pollycove, M.D., they are the first and second authors of Mother Nurture: A Mother’s Guide to Health in Body, Mind, and Intimate Relationships, published by Penguin. You can see their website at or email them with questions or comments at;; unfortunately, a personal reply may not always be possible.

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