The Boomer’s Guide To Online Dating
By: Judsen Culbreth
Reviewed By: Jon Henshaw, M.A.
In an age of mass produced self-help and relationship books, The Boomer's Guide To Online Dating breaks the mold. This book is one of the most thoughtfully written books I've read in a long time.
The author, Judsen Culbreth, has more than 30 years of experience in magazines and TV journalism, serving as editor-in-chief of Working Mother, executive editor of Redbook, and the first work/family contributing editor on the Today show. Her experience shows throughout The Boomer's Guide To Online Dating.
Her book begins cautiously, with the first section focusing on whether or not the reader is ready to begin dating. Once the reader establishes that they are ready to date, Judsen educates the reader on compatibility. She helps them figure out who and what they're looking for, and discusses roadblocks to dating success.
Judsen quickly immerses the reader into the online dating world. She provides step-by-step advice on everything from creating an appealing username, to writing a profile that will produce responses. She offers this advice when describing yourself physically in a profile:
"Tell the truth. Some require you to disclose height, weight, and age right up front. If you've been fudging for a while and can get away with shaving a few pounds for years, you might be okay. But any experienced online dater will warn you that you're risking wrath when you lie. Clever explanations and apologies will not earn you forgiveness if you've wasted someone's time by misrepresenting yourself. When the 50-Something Tennis Champ I agreed to meet turned out to be 72, the sweet bouquet he brought didn't keep me from leaving soon after our handshake. He'd insulted me by lying."
Much of The Boomer's Guide To Online Dating is full of helpful exercises and quizzes designed to help readers understand themselves better, and prepare them for the online dating world. Most online dating boomers will find her occasional hand-holding and insightful tips extremely beneficial when using online dating services.
Not only does she take extra steps throughout the book to walk the reader through the most common experiences that online daters experience, she also spends time focusing on the dangers of online dating. There's an entire chapter devoted to safety concerns. In it, she shows how to avoid liars, cads, stalkers, cheats, bounders. Although anything can happen when meeting people through online dating, she offers this optimistic snippet at the end of the chapter:
"I don't want this chapter to scare you, and I hope it hasn't. I feel a responsibility, however, to make sure you're well informed about even the remotest risks, and they are remote. I believe that an Internet date can be the safest date you ever make. With good screening and good judgment, you can be more in control than you would from a random meeting or blind date. Be savvy, be safe, and have fun!"
As you can imagine from the title of the book, Judsen applies special attention to boomers throughout the book. Since boomer's bodies are different from when they were younger, she includes a chapter on chemistry and sex. In it she discusses relevant issues, like how perimenopause/menopause affects sex, and psychological issues affecting intimacy.
The Boomer's Guide To Online Dating provides the boomer generation with an excellent tool to help Boomers jump into the online dating world. As the author shows throughout her book, Boomers can harness the power of online dating to date successfully, and can hopefully find the love of their life.