Relationships
5 Keys To Settling Marital Conflict
No doubt about it, marital squabbles and even ugly fights usually increase after children come along. The causes are painfully familiar to us all: sleep deprivation, little time for oneself, feeling let down, vicious cycles of finger-pointing, the in-laws, etc. etc.
Finding Fun Things To Do For A Date
Need an idea for what to do on a date? Here’s how to go about finding ideas for new and unusual dates that are enjoyable and memorable.
The Challenge Of Families
The question of disengaging from one’s family, or from a particular member of the family, often comes up in my counseling work with individuals and couples. Many people have been taught that it is wrong to pull away from one’s family that one should keep the family unit intact at all costs.
Taking Care Of Yourself In The Moment
How often have you had the experience of not knowing what to say in conflict? Later, after thinking about it, you think of all the things you wish you would have said. Then you go back to your partner to try to deal with the issue, only to discover that it’s too late – your partner doesn’t understand what you are talking about.
Are You a “Right-Fighter”?
Do you find yourself struggling to “win” arguments? Do people ask you why you always have to be right? Does conflict you engage in typically end with you having the last word, but no one feels good about the argument? Do arguments you engage in usually escalate to shouting and anger? If you have said yes to any of these questions, you are likely a right-fighter!
Separation: Be Smart About Time Apart
Even as you read this article, there are many couples living in a transition between married life and getting divorced. Separation can come in many forms and have many intentions. For some it is simply a necessity so they can begin building separate lives while they wait for the divorce process to end. However, other couples view separation as a way of creating space and lessening the tension of a partnership so they can decide whether the marriage is salvageable.
Morning “Pick-Me-Ups” for your Relationship
Mornings are infamous for not being pleasant. Too often it’s the beginning of a busy day and just getting up and getting started becomes more important than paying attention to the people around you. But just as breakfast is one of the most important meals of the day, it is important to leave the house in the morning feeling connected to and appreciated by your partner. Here are some quick tips that can help your relationship start out on the right foot everyday.
How To Repair Relationship Devastation
When faced with adultery, betrayal or other relationship hurdles, people react in different ways. Some shut down. Some run away. Some call Ricki Lake or Jerry Springer. No one can tell you what acts or events a relationship can overcome and which ones are deal-breakers. However, it is critical that, when faced with a devastating relationship event, you take responsibility and deal with, not hide from, the problem.