Divorce is a scary, lonely and misunderstood process for most people, particularly when there are children involved. The mutual friends enjoyed during the marriage may not be of help because those individuals may not want to “pick a side.” A divorce will introduce you to an entirely new balancing act.
Dear Mr. Dad: I used to be the center of my wife’s universe. Now that we’ve had a baby, I’m jealous, of all the time they spend together and I feel left out. Is this normal and how can I overcome my feelings?
Do you suspect you may be in an abusive relationship, but aren’t quite sure? Are you looking for clues to confirm or disprove your hypothesis one way or the other? The answer you are looking for may be contained in the words, language patterns, and communication style used by your partner.
Should you be intimate to please your partner even when you’re not in the mood for it? This is the million-dollar question, and the right answer may depend on the intensity of your feelings, your partner’s feelings, and the situation at hand. Whether you reluctantly choose to be intimate with your partner or decide to abstain, one of you will undoubtedly end up being unhappy about your decision.
Most married couples never stop to think about consciously discussing duties, tasks, chores, and responsibilities. Things just follow a certain course and you are either happy with it or not.
For most women, menopause brings a bewildering constellation of emotional and physical changes. In addition to the hot flashes, night sweats, and mood swings that accompany the change of life, many women experience a depressing drop in sexual desire. Some of this drop is undoubtedly due to physical factors, but hormonal changes play an important role.
Money is certainly a concern in relationships where both people are working hard yet there is not enough money. However, this is not the situation that generally causes relationship problems. In this situation, both partners are on the same side, each supporting the other in dealing with the problems. There are no power struggles, just actual money concerns.
Between the decision to divorce and the physical separation, you and your wife are stranded between two worlds: your past life together and your future lives apart. It is only natural during this period of limbo that emotions run high. Even the slightest miscue can lead to an explosion that could irrevocably damage your chances at a good divorce. The problem is that, because the relationship has changed, it is hard to know how to act.