Sexually, we like to think that we have it together, that we are more sophisticated and sexually aware now than at any other time in history. Yet, as we have seen, the current stereotype of normal, desirable sex is still quite narrow and rigid.
Should you be intimate to please your partner even when you’re not in the mood for it? This is the million-dollar question, and the right answer may depend on the intensity of your feelings, your partner’s feelings, and the situation at hand. Whether you reluctantly choose to be intimate with your partner or decide to abstain, one of you will undoubtedly end up being unhappy about your decision.
For most women, menopause brings a bewildering constellation of emotional and physical changes. In addition to the hot flashes, night sweats, and mood swings that accompany the change of life, many women experience a depressing drop in sexual desire. Some of this drop is undoubtedly due to physical factors, but hormonal changes play an important role.
If you have experienced problems in becoming sexually excited, you can actually do a lot to help yourself to sexual arousal with the following program of action steps. If they do not help, it’s a sign that you may need sex therapy with a professional to make sex work for both of you.