{"id":258,"date":"2006-03-03T11:25:34","date_gmt":"2006-03-03T17:25:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.familyresource.com\/blog\/?p=258"},"modified":"2006-03-03T11:25:34","modified_gmt":"2006-03-03T17:25:34","slug":"mother-daughter-relations-part-deux","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.familyresource.com\/blog\/2006\/03\/03\/mother-daughter-relations-part-deux\/","title":{"rendered":"Mother-Daughter Relations: Part Deux"},"content":{"rendered":"

I found an interesting article<\/a> encapsulating a section of this book<\/a>:\u00a0 You’re Wearing That?: Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation.\u00a0 <\/em><\/p>\n

It delves into the language and interpretation of the mother-daughter bond – how things are said and how things are heard.\u00a0Just in the small excerpt we see how\u00a0the author,\u00a0Deborah Tannene,\u00a0wrangles the most delicate issues – the small, seemingly insignificant, things that get so misunderstood and rearranged in this most fundamental of relationships.<\/p>\n

There is yet another reason that a small comment or suggestion can grate: It can come across as a vote of no confidence. This is annoying coming from anyone, but it\u2019s especially hurtful when it comes from the person whose opinion counts most\u2014your mother. Unaccountable as this may seem to mothers, the smallest remark can bring into focus the biggest question that hovers over nearly all conversations between mothers and daughters: Do you see me for who I am? And is who I am okay? When mothers\u2019 comments to daughters (or, for that matter, daughters\u2019 comments to mothers) seem to answer that question in the affirmative, it\u2019s deeply reassuring: all\u2019s right with the world. But when their words seem to imply that the answer is No, there\u2019s something wrong with what you\u2019re doing, then daughters (and, later in life, mothers) can feel the ground on which they stand begin to tremble: They start to doubt whether how they do things, and therefore who they are, really is okay<\/em>.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

So, as women keep searching for a balance in this ultimate of ultimates\u00a0of relationships, it is good to know that we are not having isolated experiences.\u00a0Not only is it common for us to simulteaneously drive one another crazy and love each other more than anyone else but it seems to be part of the nature of the relationship.\u00a0It is a complex thing, this mother-daughter tradition.\u00a0I think I’ll read this book – and then pass it along to my best friend Mary Ann.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I found an interesting article encapsulating a section of this book:\u00a0 You’re Wearing That?: Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation.\u00a0 It delves into the language and interpretation of the mother-daughter bond – how things…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-258","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.familyresource.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/258","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.familyresource.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.familyresource.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.familyresource.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.familyresource.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=258"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.familyresource.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/258\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.familyresource.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=258"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.familyresource.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=258"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.familyresource.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=258"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}