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A year or so ago, my husband and I had a long (weeks long) conversation about how to get past being moderately satisfied with your position (in every aspect) to becoming truly satisfied and fulfilled.\u00a0 We set out on a journey, five years ago, that put us through much, unforseen struggle.\u00a0 Being artists, we knew it was going to be hard but we really had NO idea.\u00a0 Several years later we are doing really well – there is stability and satisfication in just about every realm of our life (knock wood, knock wood, knock wood).\u00a0 What we can now see (god bless hindsight) is that the change (from struggling\/ but still moderately happy to feeling in control and damn happy) happened because we, responsibly, made room.\u00a0 That conversation that I mentioned was specifically about pinpointing the things that, although might be paying the bills, were not conducive to getting ahead.\u00a0 The two major instances were me working during the day.\u00a0 I wasn’t working at a job I particularly loved or wanted to make a career out of – but it had benefits, so we stuck it out.\u00a0 My paycheck basically went to the nanny.\u00a0 My husband juggled five different adjunct professor positions at five different Universities and several night time\/weekend community education programs.\u00a0 It was random, at best, and only moderately reliable but it too paid the bills.\u00a0 What are jobs WEREN’T doing were allowing us to say “yes” to other opportunities or projects that might lead to other opportunities.\u00a0 We were quickly becoming that statistic of American families that work but don’t really live.\u00a0 So, very responsibly (we do<\/em> have two kids to think about), we\u00a0started culling the things we could and then made big changes altogether.\u00a0 And, even though it is about making room, it is also about making a decision.\u00a0 <\/strong>Not being aware that you could be doing more with your life is an easy trap to fall into and we almost did.\u00a0 Being aware that you could<\/em> be happier and not<\/em> doing anything at all is even\u00a0worse.\u00a0<\/p>\n

I totally don’t mean to lecture – but now that I have reread what I have written I realize that is what it sounds like.\u00a0 I am, really, only thinking outloud.\u00a0 It is that time, for me,\u00a0again.\u00a0 Time to cull the things holding me back and embrace the things that will get me to my next step: graduate school.\u00a0 And it’s not just graduate school.\u00a0 It is getting my son into a better school.\u00a0 It is getting my husband into better galleries.\u00a0 It is finding a home to buy.\u00a0 All my bemoanings about time this past week have been because I am at the beginning of a new journey and I guess I am feeling impatient.\u00a0 I just have to take a step and\u00a0a breath and make some room for all that I hope is coming next.\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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