Relationships

Love Will Keep Us Together

I have often noticed that couples who work hard on their relationship more than their relationship with their kids seem to hold up better in stressful times. Hear me out – I know that your relationship with your kids is what you live for and the most beautiful thing that has ever happened to you. I agree and understand that. But, I find it as (if not more) important to keep the strength of my relationship with my husband on the other front burner. A solid marriage can slip away pretty quickly if you aren’t tending to it as diligently as you would your role as a parent. Here are some things that work for us and for friends of ours who agree that one day our kids will be grown people with lives of their own and loves of their own.

Relationship Glue

Although several types of love play an important role in marriage, it’s Agape love that acts as “relationship glue”. Agape love is often described as, “Self-sacrificing love. Altruistic love that is experienced by people willing to do things for another person with no expectations.”

Couples Can Learn to Fight Fair

Many couples get caught up in arguing over the typical problems that plague relationships. The list of topics that couples “lock horns” over is actually quite short. Generally, couples feud over finances, household tasks, in-laws, parenting issues, and lack of trust. Conflict resolution takes work and patience.

Financial Feuds And Relationship Wreckage

One of the major presenting problems that couples bring to the counseling process is financial conflict. Many partners believe that if the issues of finances can be resolved, then their relationship will be restored. However, financial conflict in marriage is symptomatic of various underlying problems that warrant exploration.

Roots For Relationship Failure

Within any intimate relationship, there must be a balanced cycle of contact and withdrawal. This means that in relationships, there needs to be a flow between meaningful connectedness and the ability to provide each other with appropriate psychological space. Couples must learn to be self-sufficient and confident enough to move between emotional contact and the need for appropriate distance.

Establishing A Relationship On The Rebound

After a relationship has ended, many people quickly turn to new relationships as a means of reestablishing a sense of feeling centered. Often, feeling alone and abandoned, one may rush to fill the void by cultivating a new relationship on the rebound.

Patterns That Lead To Relationship Failure

Within any intimate relationship, there must be a balanced cycle of contact and withdrawal. This means that in relationships, there needs to be a flow between meaningful connectedness and the ability to provide each other with appropriate psychological space. Couples must learn to be self-sufficient and confident enough to move between emotional contact and the need for appropriate distance.

Empathy – A Key Relationship Skill

The basis of emotional closeness in a relationship is empathy, the foundation of the experience of “we” rather than just “I” or “you.” If you sense that your partner really feels how it is for you, you feel less stressed, plus closer and more trusting, and more inclined to give empathy to him – and the same is certainly true for him with regard to you.

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